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Editor's Note
Welcome to the May edition of Spiral Dance News, a monthly ezine published byThe Femi9 Lodge.
Happy Birthday to all who are born in this month of May.
How often we hear children say the word Ma. Yet we do not really know the complete essence and/or power of this simple two letter word used to describe a Mother. In my research, I have found something that I know is worth sharing.
Ma is the basic Indo-European syllable for the fundamental name of the Goddess. Ma is also said to translate as “in the Great Yoni” in the Far East in pictographic form. Ma is an indication of an idea expressed that all who descended from the same Mother shared the same blood. Therefore, they could not injure one another without injuring themselves. This was practical for peace.
Ma too was often defined as intelligence. In Ancient Egypt this Mother force was given such names as Ma-Nu, Maa or Maat, the spirit of Truth and Justice, The All Seeing Eye.
Even though Mother’s Day is celebrated only one day of the year in this month of May, it is always a good thing to keep that celebration of devotion going for a much longer period of time.
This newsletter was not published in time for Mother’s Day but I’d still like to send a special greeting and blessing to all who are The Mother Principle and to our Earth Mother, for without Her, we would not be.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Let us continue on our path of the Divine Femi9, with a light and joyous heart.
May all of your lessons come with grace and may your blessings be abundant!
Sending love and (((((hugs))))) to all of you and thanks for your continued support.
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Priestess in Progress
I am a Priestess in Progress.
Working on my Highest Spiritual Self.
You know, the one that represents
Unconditional Love.
I am a Priestess in Progress.
Learning the ways of
My Ancestors
The Shaman
The Medicine Man
The Medicine Woman.
I am a Priestess in Progress
Striving everyday to be the best I can be.
Sometimes stumbling
Sometimes falling
But always rising to the top
Of my Spiritual development.
My conscious mind
My unconscious mind
Fused as one
In the Spirit of light and love.
A.K.A. (also known as)
Christ Consciousness.
I am a Priestess in Progress
Knowing that
I am doing the work of
My Mother
My Father.
Those parts of God within me.
Judge me not by
But by the
Warmth of my Spirit.
I am a Priestess in Progress.
Just like you.
(c) 2004 by Tonya K. Freeman, DD, MsD, DM - All Rights Reserved
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| Become a Better Lover With Tantra II
(c)2004 by Rev. Goddess Charmaine

Now that you understand the importance of loving yourself, first, for the personal relationship that develops within you… You also know what your body likes and in having the courage to treat yourself this way you will honor yourself with others. Now we can move onto loving others.
Second, Loving Others.
Giving freely is the only true way to honor The God/Goddess in others. In what ever capacity allow yourself to give without any expectations of a return.
Especially in tantric massage and sex is this consciousness very important. You can only uplift the spirit sexually if you are not in the mix for yourself. Giving of yourself through your body to another is very special and the receiver will truly appreciate the blessing. The art of giving is the second level of loving. We as an indestructible spiritual beings need to recognize our power of creating through free will. Everything we touch we change. So this exercise is focused more on your thinking rather than the acting. See yourself giving to someone regardless of relationship without getting anything in return. Simply give for the act of giving. Small steps at first. How many times do you give in any capacity and are shocked or offended at the lack of appreciation from others. This is about your ego which does not belong in tantra. That part of another not recognizing your kindness is only appropriately dealt with in matters of living on earth in relative peace with others (the golden rule applies here ~ Do unto others as you would have them do unto you).
What we are forming together is your erotic consciousness for achieving high sex.
Knowing the spiritual laws you also understand that nothing is lost. Not a thought or an act. With this being the case your intentions are moved throughout your body by thought and deed and therefore is never lost in the universe. That means my dear erotic brother and sister that you will be blessed for all that you do for others. It may not always and mostly does not return from the receiver yet you will be rewarded for the art of blessing. I am not telling you to run out and give away your belongings and time to the point of unbalance in your personal life. There may be times that you will be called for a sacrifice nonetheless I don't think this is now. By preparing your mind for giving your body flows in a free space without anxiety.
Get a partner or a loving/kissing friend you can give a massage to. You want to spend some time in giving a soft erotic touch to your friend without you caring if your body feels good or if you will receive personal physical pleasure from it. Always remember that your body will respond and that's wonderful, yet it's not about you it's energy flowing from you to the receiver. Choose a person you do feel deserves the blessing. Create a space that you will not be disturbed for some time. One hour should be enough unless you live with this person and can do allot more. This is not about genitalia this is about honoring the entire body. Have the person lie on their belly first and with soft lighting or sunlight flowing through the room is fine. Gentle music can be played if there is to much noise outside. Let the person know that you want to give them a blessing with touch. Just simply touch the persons’ body with your hands and fingers like they are feathers. Let your thoughts be of pure respect and appreciation that the receiver is giving you this time to honor them. Don't be shy about touching the entire body they will love it. Just keep your thoughts focused on how beautiful they are and sexy they are and removing any negativity that can be in their aura and replacing positive sexual vibrations. You may feel very turned on by this yourself. If you do you can use your desire to touch them even deeper. Always remember to use your energy at this time for their relaxation and arousal. No concerns of yourself and you will see that complete pleasure will envelop you eventually. I promise.
If you find at times during the massage you begin sexualizing that means thinking about having sexual intercourse with the receiver. Stop...breathe...and remember to slow down your thoughts to channeling the honoring thoughts of giving to this perfect God/Goddess Spirit. Sexual intercourse does play a big part in being a lover in tantra however it is not time yet.
Turn the receiver over when you feel you have completed the backside and continue on the front of the body. They may desire more sexual play as well. This is all fine and good, yet I recommend you let it rest without the genital intercourse yet to really feel the full body orgasm with out deep penetration in this way. That time will come.
You can touch and use your body parts even your genitals to stroke her/him. Your breasts ladies and your lingam gentlemen. This is very arousing and should be used as non threatening to the receiver.
You will notice over time the pure joy in giving and the prayerful state of mind you will be in.
When you are done...be thankful and rest yourself.
Try this often and let yourself evolve.
Prepare for level three next month.
Goddess Blessings, I am Reverend Goddess Charmaine.
http://www.revcharmaine.com
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Building Better Bones
(c)2000 by Susun Weed

"It is a bone-deep change you are going into, my beloved," counsels Grandmother Growth. "You must open to your very marrow for this transformation. No cell is to remain untouched. You are to open more than you ever dreamed you could open, more than you have opened in birth or in passion. You open now to the breath of mortality as it plays the bone flute of your being. What can you do but dance to the haunting melody, develop a passion for an elegant posture and a long stride?
"Ah, yes," Grandmother Growth smiles rather wantonly. "It would do you well to develop a taste for dark greens tarted with vinegar and mated with garlic. These things will build strong flexible bones to support you as you become Crone."
Did you know that your bones are always changing? Every day of your life, some bone cells die and some new bone cells are created. From birth until your early 30s, you can easily make lots of bone cells. So long as your diet supplies the necessary nutrients, you not only replace bone cells that die, you have extras left over to lengthen and strengthen your bones.
Past the age of 35, new bone cells are more difficult to make. Sometimes there is a shortfall: more bone cells die than you can replace. In the orthodox view, this is the beginning of osteoporosis, the disease of low bone mass. By the age of forty, many American women have begun to lose bone mass; by the age of fifty, most are told they must take hormones or drugs to prevent further loss and avoid osteoporosis, hip fracture, and death.
Women who exercise regularly and eat calcium-rich foods enter their menopausal years with better bone mass than women who sit a lot and consume calcium-leaching foods (including soy "milk," tofu, coffee, soda pop, alcohol, white flour products, processed meats, nutritional yeast, and bran). But no matter how good your lifestyle choices, bone mass usually decreases during the menopausal years.
For unknown reasons, menopausal bones slow down production of new cells and seem to ignore the presence of calcium. This "bone-pause" is generally short-lived, occurring off and on for five to seven years. I noticed it in scattered episodes of falling hair, breaking fingernails, and the same "growing pains" I experienced during puberty.
I did not see it in a bone scan, because I didn't have one.
The idea behind bone scans is a good one: find women who are at risk of broken bones, alert them to the danger, and help them engage in preventative strategies. There's only one problem: bone scans don't find women who are at risk of broken bones, they find women who have low bone density.
I would like to help you let go of the idea that osteoporosis is important. In the Wise Woman Tradition, we focus on the patient, not the problem. In the Wise Woman tradition, there are no diseases and no cures for diseases. When we focus on a disease, like osteoporosis, we cannot see the whole woman. The more we focus on one disease, even its prevention, the less likely we are to nourish wholeness and health.
Focusing on osteoporosis, defining it as a disease, using drugs to counter it, we lose sight of the fact that postmenopausal bone mass is a better indicator of breast cancer risk than broken bone risk. The twenty-five percent of postmenopausal women with the highest bone mass are two-and-a-half to four times more likely to be diagnosed with breast cancer than those with the lowest bone mass. And that hormones which maintain bone mass also adversely affect breast cancer risk. Women who take estrogen replacement (often given to prevent osteoporosis), even for as little as five years, increase their risk of breast cancer by twenty percent; if they take hormone replacement, the risk increases by forty percent.
Focusing on bone mass, we lose sight of the fact that a strong correlation between bone density and bone breakage has not been established, according to Susan Brown, director of the Osteoporosis Information Clearing House, and many others. We lose sight of the fact that women who faithfully take estrogen or hormone replacement still experience bone changes and suffer spinal crush fractures.
Bone-pause passes and the bones do rebuild themselves, especially when supported by nourishing herbs, which are exceptional sources of bone-building minerals and better at preventing bone breaks than supplements. The minerals in green plants seem to be ideal for keeping bones healthy. Dr. Campbell, Professor of Nutritional Biochemistry at Cornell University, has done extensive research in rural China where the lowest known fracture rates for midlife and older women were found. He says, "The closer people get to a diet based on plant foods and leafy vegetables, the lower the rates of many diseases, including osteoporosis." Women who consume lots of calcium-rich plants and exercise moderately build strong flexible bones. Women who rely on hormones build bones that are massive, but rigid.
Hormone replacement regimes do not increase bone cell creation; they slow (or suppress) bone cell killers (osteoclasts). There is a rebound effect; bone loss jumps when the hormones are stopped. Women who take hormones for five years or more are as much as four times more likely to break a bone in the year after they stop than a woman of the same age who never took hormones. Women who build better bones with green allies and exercise nourish the bone cell creator cells (osteoblasts).
Hormone or estrogen replacement, taken as menopause begins and continued for the rest of your life, is said to reduce post-menopausal fracture rates by 40-60 percent. Frequent walks (you don't even need to sweat) and a diet high in calcium-rich green allies (at least 1500 mg daily) have been shown to reduce post-menopausal fractures by 50 percent. The first is expensive and dangerous. The second, inexpensive and health promoting. It's easy to see why more than eighty percent of American women just "say no" to hormones. It is never too late to build better bones, and it is never too soon. Your best insurance for a fracture-free, strong-boned cronehood is to build better bones before menopause. The more exercise and calcium-rich green allies you get in your younger years, the less you'll have to worry about as you age.
"A woman has lost half of all the spongy bone (spine, wrist) she'll ever lose by the age of 50, but very little of the dense (hip, hand, forearm) bone. Attention to bone formation at every stage of life is vital; there is no time when you are too old to create healthy new bone." - American MD
CALCIUM
"Osteoporosis is much less common in countries that consume the least calcium. That is an undisputed fact." -T. C. Campbell, PhD. Nutritional Biochemistry
Step 1: Collect Information
Calcium is, without a doubt, the most important mineral in your body. In fact, calcium makes up more than half of the total mineral content of your body. Calcium is crucial to the regular beating of your heart, your metabolism, the functioning of your muscles, the flow of impulses along your nerves, the regulation of your cellular membranes, the strength of your bones, the health of your teeth and gums, and your vital blood-clotting mechanisms. Calcium is so critical to your life that you have a gland (the parathyroid) that does little else than monitor blood levels of calcium and secrete hormones to ensure optimum levels of calcium at all times.
When you consume more calcium than you use, you are in a positive calcium balance: extra usable calcium is stored in the bones and you gain bone mass (insoluble or unusable calcium may be excreted, or stored in soft tissue, or deposited in the joints). When you consume less calcium than you use, you are in a negative calcium balance: the parathyroid produces a hormone that releases calcium stores from the bones, and you lose bone mass.
To ensure a positive calcium balance and create strong, flexible bones for your menopausal journey, take care to:
1 Eat three or more calcium-rich foods daily.
2 Avoid calcium antagonists.
3 Use synergistic foods to magnify the effectiveness of calcium.
4 Avoid calcium supplements.
Step 2: Engage the Energy
1 The homeopathic tissue salt Silica is said to improve bone health.
2 What does it mean to you to support yourself? To be supported? To stand on your own? To have a backbone in your life?
Step 3: Nourish & Tonify
1 What do we need to make strong flexible bones? Like all tissues, bones need protein. They need minerals (not just calcium, but also potassium, manganese, magnesium, silica, iron, zinc, selenium, boron, phosphorus, sulphur, chromium, and dozens of others). And in order to use those minerals, high-quality fats, including oil-soluble vitamin D.
2 Many menopausal women I meet believe that protein is bad for their bones. Not so. Researchers at Utah State University, looking at the diets of 32,000 postmenopausal women, found that women who ate the least protein were the most likely to fracture a hip; and that eating extra protein sped the healing of hip fractures.
3 Acids created by protein digestion are buffered by calcium. Traditional diets combine calcium- and protein-rich foods (e.g. seaweed with tofu, tortillas made from corn ground on limestone with beans, and melted cheese on a hamburger). Herbs such as seaweed, stinging nettle, oatstraw, red clover, dandelion, and comfrey leaf are rich in protein and provide plenty of calcium too. Foods such as tahini, sardines, canned salmon, yogurt, cheese, oatmeal, and goats' milk offer us protein, generous amounts of calcium, and the healthy fats our bones need. If you crave more protein during menopause, follow that craving. CAUTION: Unfermented soy (e.g., tofu) is especially detrimental to bone health being protein-rich, naturally deficient in calcium, and a calcium antagonist to boot.
1 Bones need lots of minerals not just calcium, which is brittle and inflexible. (Think of chalk, calcium carbonate, and how easily it breaks.) Avoid calcium supplements. Focus on getting generous amounts of calcium from herbs and foods and you will automatically get the multitude of minerals you need for flexible bones.
2 Because minerals are bulky, and do not compact, we must consume generous amounts to make a difference in our health. Taking mineral-rich herbs in capsule or tincture form won't do much for your bones. (One cup of nettle tincture contains the same amount of calcium - 300 mg - as one cup of nettle infusion. Many women drink two or more cups of infusion a day; no one consumes a cup of tincture a day!) Neither will eating raw foods. I frequently come across the idea that cooking robs food of nutrition. Nothing could be further from the truth. Cooking maximizes the minerals available to your bones. Kale cooked for an hour delivers far more calcium than lightly steamed kale. Minerals are rock-like, and to extract them, we need heat, time, and generous quantities of plant material.
3 Green sources of calcium are the best. Nourishing herbs and garden weeds are far richer in minerals than ordinary greens, which are already exceptional sources of nutrients.
1 But calcium from green sources alone is not enough. We need calcium from white sources as well. Add a quart of yogurt a week to your diet if you want really healthy bones. Because the milk has been changed by Lactobacillus organisms, its calcium, other minerals, proteins, and sugars (no lactose) are more easily digested. This carries over, enhancing calcium and mineral absorption from other foods, too. (I have known several vegans who increased their very low bone density by as much as 6 percent in one year by eating yogurt.) Organic raw milk cheeses are another superb white source.
2 Horsetail herb (Equisetum arvense) works like a charm for those premenopausal women who have periodontal bone loss or difficulty with fracture healing. Taken as tea, once or twice a day, young spring-gathered horsetail dramatically strengthens bones and promotes rapid mending of breaks. CAUTION: Mature horsetail contains substances which may irritate the kidneys.
Step 4: Stimulate/Sedate
1 Beware of calcium antagonists. Certain foods interfere with calcium utilization. For better bones avoid consistent use of:
1 Greens rich in oxalic acid, including chard (silver beet), beet greens, spinach, rhubarb.
2 Unfermented soy products, including tofu, soy beverages, soy burgers.
3 Phosphorus-rich foods, including carbonated drinks, white flour products, and many processed foods. (Teenagers who drink sodas instead of milk are four times more likely to break a bone.)
4 Foods that produce acids requiring a calcium buffer when excreted in the urine, including coffee, white sugar, tobacco, alcohol, nutritional yeast, salt.
5 Fluoride in water or toothpaste.
6 Fiber pills, bran taken alone, bulk-producing laxatives.
7 Steroid medications, including corticosteroids such as prednisone and asthma inhalers. (Daily use reduces spinal bone mass by as much as ten percent a year.)
8 Restricted calorie diets. Women who weigh the least have the greatest loss of bone during menopause and "neither calcium supplements, vitamin D supplements, nor estrogen" slow the loss. Among 236 premenopausal women, all of whom consumed similar amounts of calcium, those who lost weight by reducing calories lost twice as much bone mass as women who maintained their weight.
1 Although chocolate contains oxalic acid, the levels are so low as to have only a negligible effect on calcium metabolism. An ounce/3000 mg of chocolate binds 15-20 mg of calcium; an ounce of cooked spinach, 100-125 mg calcium. Bittersweet (dark) chocolate is a source of iron. Recent research has found chocolate to be very heart healthy. As with any stimulant, daily use is not advised. Chocolate is an important and helpful ally for women. Guilt about eating it and belief that it is damaging to your health interferes with your ability to hear and respond to your body wisdom. If you want to eat chocolate - do it; and get the best. But if you're doing it every day - eat more weeds.
2 Excess phosphorus accelerates bone loss and demineralization. Phosphorus compounds are second only to salt as food additives. They are found in carbonated beverages, soda pop; white flour products, especially if "enriched" (bagels, cookies, cakes, donuts, pasta, bread); preserved meats (bacon, ham, sausage, lunch meat, and hot dogs); supermarket breakfast cereals; canned fruit; processed potato products such as frozen fries and instant mashed potatoes; processed cheeses; instant soups and puddings.
1 To avoid phosphorus overload and improve calcium absorption:
1 Drink spring water and herbal infusions; avoid soda pop and carbonated water.
2 Eat only whole grain breads, noodles, cookies, and crackers.
3 Buy only unpreserved meats, cheeses, potatoes.
4 Avoid buying foods with ingredients; they are highly processed.
2 Excess salt leaches calcium. Women eating 3900 mg of sodium a day excrete 30 percent more calcium than those eating 1600 mg. The main sources of dietary sodium are processed and canned foods. Seaweed is an excellent calcium-rich source of salt. Sea salt may be used freely as it contains trace amounts of calcium. Salt is critical for health; do not eliminate it from your diet.
3 Increase hydrochloric acid production (in your stomach) and you'll make better use of the calcium you consume. Lower stomach acid (with antacids, for example) and you will receive little bone benefit from the calcium you ingest. Some ways to acidify:
Drink lemon juice in water with or after your meal.
Take 10-25 drops dandelion root tincture in a little water before you eat.
Use calcium-rich herbal vinegars in your salad dressing; put some on cooked greens and beans, too.
Step 5a: Use Supplements
1 I really wish you wouldn't use calcium supplements. They expose you to dangers and don't prevent fractures. A study in Australia that followed 10,000 white women over the age of 65 for six and a half years found "Use of calcium supplements was associated with increased risk of hip and vertebral fracture; use of Tums antacid tablets was associated with increased risk of fractures of the proximal humerus."
1 If you insist on supplements, go for calcium-fortified orange juice or crumbly tablets of calcium citrate. Chewable calcium gluconate, calcium lactate, and calcium carbonate are acceptable sources. Dolomite, bone meal, and oyster shell are best avoided as they usually contain lead and other undesirable minerals.
2 For better bones, take 500 mg magnesium (not citrate) with your calcium. Better yet, wash your calcium pill down with a glass of herbal infusion; that will provide not only magnesium but lots of other bone-strengthening minerals, too.
3 Calcium supplements are more effective in divided doses. Two doses of 250 mg, taken morning and night, actually provide more usable calcium than a 1000 mg tablet.
Step 5b: Use Drugs
Even if you take hormone therapy (ERT or HRT) you must get adequate calcium to maintain bone mass, according to researchers at Columbia University. That's 1200-1500 mg a day (a cup of plain yogurt, two cups of nettle infusion, a splash of mineral-rich vinegar, plus three figs is about that). As you increase your intake of calcium-rich foods/herbs, gradually cut back on your hormone dose if you wish.
Step 6: Break & Enter
Bone density tests are frequently used to push women into taking hormones or drugs. If your bone density is low, use the remedies in this section and schedule another test (for at least six months later) before agreeing to such therapies.
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When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons(c) 2004 by Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway - All rights reserved

“For The Goddess In You
From A Goddess Is A Girl’s Best Friend
(Perigee Books, December 2002)
Nothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less than finer points. People often ask me how to fix common relationship problems such as this. Sometimes the best thing to do is just let the dark parts come up so you can shine a light on them.
Not a Bad Thing
Your partner probably brings up some of the unresolved issues and forces you to revisit and reflect on that within you that needs some attention and healing. Relationships often bring all our "issues" up. Bringing these things to light is not necessarily a "bad thing."
Lessons To Learn
The people who show up in our lives all have a lesson to bring us or learn with us. When relationships are difficult it is often because they are highlighting a hidden part of the self that we have disowned or weren't even aware of. Intimate relationships beg us to explore our shadow selves. These shadows are not the "boogie man/woman;" they are signs that within lives unknown aspects of self. In many cases, these parts would never be discovered, were it not for the partner who pushes your buttons! The gift is it is a chance to look deeply into ourselves… and an opportunity to love ourselves even more by loving "the other."
Even difficult relationships are sacred
If someone shows up in your life to share love, you’ve been given the great gift of a partner to help you navigate the sometimes smooth, and sometimes choppy, ocean of Relationships. This person can be a romantic partner, a friend, co-worker, or family member. If a relationship or interaction is stimulating or triggering negative emotions or fears, note where this person makes you angry, what about them makes your blood boil; get in touch with ways you feel unloved or upset around them. Then consider they are reflecting something to you that comes from within you. It is one of the hardest lessons for us to learn in life because we always want to point a finger at the other person.
The Responsibilities of Loving
In these relationships, you may feel that you want to flee… but you cannot flee from yourself. You will only recreate the same pattern elsewhere. When you learn to pay attention to the darker side of relationships and not be fearful simply because it is dark, you will learn which relationships are truly good for you and which you must leave behind. And you will be able to learn which partnerships are ultimately healing and which add injury and insult. This is a process that requires you to take a lot of personal responsibility - to detect and admit your own imbalances and to take on the work of healing them, and to observe your own behavior and make a decision to alter co-dependent and unhealthy behaviors.
Steering the Relationship
Love, by its very nature, brings with it a subtle yet sweeping transformative power that brings us closer to our own greatness. But each partner in a love relationship - as well as friends and family members - must get there of their own accord, with love as the gentle impetus, not as the sledge hammer that enforces change. You can't fix your partner, although you can begin to alter your own understanding, behavior and consciousness in the relationship. You can begin to steer the relationship toward a more conscious exploration of the shadowy sides of loving and being intimate with another.
Know When it's Over
Some people come to us to teach us and then they move on. Some come to learn with us but fail to take away from the relationship the lessons that will empower them to grow. It’s important to assess the signs of a partner who has no intention to evolve. The proof here is in the pudding: they simply never make any effort to change and you end up doing all emotional work in the relationship. You will naturally want to do all you can to help this person along, but there will come a time of reckoning, of absolute truth telling, when you must assess if a relationship has run its course. It is always wise to clarify the differences between getting your buttons pushed as a natural process of relating and being in an unhealthy relationship that is filled with a lot of upset and aggravation.
Final Word
Talk to your loved one and see if she/he is willing to discuss the situation and find out her/his point of view as well: Is she/he feeling her buttons pushed by you? Telling the truth, and opening the door to telling the truth, is the first step to liberate you and your loved one from a negative pattern you may be stuck in. See if you can open the dialog for some conscious and loving exploration. It's always a more pleasant experience if you and your partner can deal with things in a conscious, loving way.
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Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is an interfaith minister and non-denominational wedding officiant, as well as a spiritual counselor/author devoted to empowering women's self esteem and spirituality. She is creator and instructor of Find Your Spiritual Soul Mate: Transforming Your Romantic Destiny with A Romantic Resumé an email course available exclusively at SelfhealingExpressions She is author of A Goddess Is A Girl's Best Friend: A Divine Guide To Finding Love, Success and Happiness (Perigee Books, December 2002) and the forthcoming, Wedding Goddess, (Perigee, Spring 2005). Visit Rev. Laurie Sue at Goddess Friends and Wedding Goddess
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Reclaim Your Power (c) by Susie Michelle Cortright
Like many moms, I suffer from selective amnesia. Mostly, it revolves
around things like pregnancy, labor, childbirth, and the isolating
early days with a newborn, which, with the first baby, culminated
in the night I emptied the Diaper Genie and my battered soul by
howling something unintelligible and swinging a roll of
smelly nappies over my head.
Thank goodness for the sharp memory of my husband, who sometimes
finds it wise to remind me about those things.
My baby is six-weeks old now, which means she has reached that
magical age when the doctors okay her (and her mommy) to fully
participate in life. But there are these struggles that keep
popping up…struggles that I had somehow forgotten about in the
two years between babies, and I have to rely on my husband's
remarkable memory once again to let me know that these were
the same issues that popped up after the first baby. Then
they buried themselves deep in some dark hole somewhere only
to re-emerge now that we are settling in with daughter number two.
I have become familiar enough with these problems that they
now have a name. They are The Monsters. The Monsters emerge
from this dark hole to crawl around my brain when I can't
sleep at night, and they pop out of my mouth before I can
stop them.
The say mean things about finances and the sharing of
responsibilities. At bottom, they may just be a sign
that I'm bored enough to want to pick a fight for the
sheer drama of the experience. Because I now recall
some of these struggles that you all report and I seem
to have forgotten. It's the tedium of playing with the
playdough and vacuuming up the playdough and finding
playdough in my bedsheets.
It's the lack of control that pervades my days. It's
the attempt to get up four hours before the rest of
my family because in this warped world of early motherhood,
work time counts as "me time," and hearing my toddler's
footsteps on the landing as she makes the long climb to
my office. I'm glad she takes the steps one-foot-at-a-time
because it affords me the time to sweep away my initial
reaction, which may involve the words, "Can't you give
mommy a few moments of peace after all the sacrifices
she makes…" and somehow dissolves into an empathetic
smile, a long hug, and a tuck-in to the mattress I've
moved into my office for this very scenario, which
usually happens about half-past four.
It's times like these when I struggle to recall how
I finally reclaimed the power and the control over my
life after my first child. After a little searching,
I remember. After a long while, I snatched at all the
control I could, and I let the rest go.
I surrendered to it after realizing that, no matter how
hard I try, I can't control when the little ones will
wake or when they'll want to eat or when they'll poop,
but I can control the way I deal with it. I can control
my energy level by controlling what I eat and how much
I exercise I get. I can even control a few things in my
work life.
After the first baby, I reclaimed my power by joining
a gym with good childcare and started a home business.
This time, I kickbox during naptime and work - mostly for the sake
of my own identity - during the wee hours.
Through it all, I repeat to myself (as though it were a
mantra) that these choices are mine. I chose the nursing
pads by insisting on breastfeeding. I chose the crazy work
hours by insisting on staying home with my girls. And if I
forget, my husband will remind me of that, too.
Happy Mother's Day to you all. May you clutch what's
important this year and surrender what is not. And may
God grant you the wisdom, as that familiar prayer pleads,
to know the difference.
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Susie Michelle Cortright is the author of several books for women and founder of Momscape.com, a website designed to help busy women find balance. Visit Momscape today and get Susie's *free* course-by-email "6 Days to Less Stress" as well as "Spa Recipes for All Seasons" in PDF.
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The Growing Season
(c) 2004 by Mysti/Fran Hafey

"When in a time of growing... always allow yourself to blow
gently in the wind, nurture yourself with the nutrients you need
to have strength, and fill your growing heart with love, and all
will be well."
~Mysti/Fran
Right now on planet earth... we're in the growing season. This is
a different season than what you and I may have heard of before,
but similar to planting seeds in earth's soil and tending to
their growth. This season is a time when people and the planet
are growing at an alarming rate. It's a time of great change as
we feel energies all around us ebb and flow to different
intensities and vibrational rates. Everything has its own life
vibrations, every rock, tree and living thing and with it all
flowing faster and more intense, we all feel it, at different
degrees, depending on where we are in our own growth and on our
path.
Some people are experiencing pain in many forms that mock
illnesses such as the flu and sinus troubles. Some are gaining
weight and some are losing, while others are meeting with
physical, emotional and spiritual challenges. Relationships are
shifting as well as how we view them.
I've felt the pull... and some days, explain that the feeling is
like being a yo-yo. One day I'm fine, the next I'm emotional, one
day I am feeling high and great, the next couple of days I am
confused, questioning and my faith is tested. I have been
through some intense cleansing and that helped me tremendously,
but as we all move forward we are experiencing changes and
trials.
This is a season of weeding out what's not working in our lives
anymore and nurturing what is. We've planted many seeds through
time and some are reaching fruition and others are just sprouting
as we give them much more attention and nutrients to grow on.
For me, one lesson I'm learning is that of silence and time for
myself. I, more than ever, enjoy the quietness and the time just
to sit and commune with myself, Spirit, my guides, nature,
spiritual connections and the wonderful energies around me and
within me.
Taking time for our selves is so important, especially during
this season of growing. So much is happening all around us and
within us that we must take time to reflect and pay attention.
I take the time before going to sleep each night to cleanse my
chakras. I meditate and slow myself down. I find peace around and
within myself, and I have found that when I lie down to finally
go to sleep, I slip away into slumber much easier. I often am
aware that while my body sleeps, I'm far away helping others.
It's a wonderful feeling.
Try not to be too hard on yourself. With so much happening, we
often feel we're not doing as much as we should. You may feel
tired or like your energy is stagnant
and people may get upset more easily at this time. Don't spread
yourself too thin. Take time to reenergize yourself and breathe
in positive energy and peace. Take a nap if you can or just slow
down and notice all the wonderful Miracles all around you.
Remember that others are feeling many of the same things you are
and everyone reacts differently. Do your best to smile and send
love, peace and light to everyone, everywhere and to planet earth
too.
Things are changing for sure and we must let things flow. When we
do, we'll find that life can be a bit easier, like the flow of
the river. It's always easier to flow downstream then to try to
flow against the current.
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Mystickblue (c) 2003 All rights reserved.
This article may be freely published so long as the author's Bylines and resource box remain intact.
About the Author:
Fran Hafey is a Minister, Reiki Practioner, Writer, Healer, Spiritual Counselor and Teacher. She provides guidance and inspiration via her Website, groups and newsletter on the World Wide Web. To read more of her articles visit the Author's Website: http://Mystickblue.com or http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SpiritualPathways/join
She's currently working on publishing her own books about love, inspiration, magic and nature stories for Children of all ages.
From the desk of Mysti/Fran Hafey at Mysticblue
~Where we believe in Miracles and Magic~
"The task ahead of you is never as great as the power within
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Breathing and Neurology
(c) Dr. Laura De Giorgio
Breathing and Neurology
Breathing is one of the most profound and direct ways we have of changing or tuning our chemical and biological state to affect our neurology. Within breath is contained life-force (energy, ki. chi, prana, etc.). The assimilation and direction of life-force can be further increased through awareness.
Rapport and Bonding
Through breathing we interact with our surroundings. The air you breathe in now was the exhalation of someone else.
Matching the breathing of another, breathing in unison with another, is one of the fastest ways to create a rapport. You can change the state of another by passing his or her breathing and then leading by slowly changing the pattern, depending on what you desire to accomplish - e.g. stimulate more excitement or calm down another.
Tantric lovers consciously use techniques of circular breathing to build a strong bond of union. The simplest is that one lover inhales while the other exhales. Partners can circle and increase energy when the active partner inhales through the nose and exhales through the genitals, while the receptive, or other partner inhales through the genitals and exhales through the nose. Making smaller circles, for instance between the sex chakra and the heart chakra, to promote intense and passionate love.
Breathing and Trance States
Deep, relaxed breathing promotes calmness and helps to induce a trance state. When breathing in, breathe deeply into your stomach, hold the breath for a few moments, and exhale very slowly. Repeat the process several times. You will notice an instant sense of increased calmness.
This kind of breathing also helps when you find yourself emotionally overwhelmed. Deep breathing will help you to let go of stress and restore mental and emotional equilibrium, enabling you to handle the situation more effectively.
One breathing technique that promotes overall relaxation is by focusing on different parts of your body and breathing through that part of the body until it feels totally loose and relaxed, beginning with your feet, and continuing with your calves, knees, thighs, buttocks, stomach, back, chest (breast), arms, shoulders, neck and completing the process with your head.
Maintaining your awareness on breathing, simply watching it without consciously attempting to change it (it will change of its own accord) promotes an awareness of the present moment.
When you are immersed in reading a book or when you are solving a mathematical problem, your mind is very much absorbed in the object of your focus. If you closely watch your breath on these occasions, you will find that the breath has become very, very slow. Mind and Breathing and closely connected.
Breathing and Healing
You can use the breath to send your attention and energy to certain parts of your body. In this way you can increase the awareness of your body, as well as stimulate the healing energy. To accelerate the healing process, all you need to do is imagine that you are breathing through the the part of your body that needs healing. Health problems are a result of "congested energy" and breathing helps both to release this blockages and allow the unobstructed flow of energy through the body, as well as to increase the life-force in that part of the body.
Breathing and Pain Management
Directing breathing to a painful area of the body relaxes the muscles and helps to eliminate pain. For example, if you feel tightness in your stomach, you may notice instant improvement after just a few focused breaths. In this case, simply imagine that you are breathing through your stomach.
Breathing and Child Delivery
There are four kinds of breathing that immensely help to ease, and control child delivery process. During the first stage of delivery, when contractions are few minutes apart, simply breathing through to stomach with the rise of each contraction, will release the tension, relax the muscles and dissolve all discomfort. As the interval between contractions shortens and they become more intense, a more intense, panting type of breathing helps to dissolve the discomfort.
As the delivery moment is approaching and you begin to feel the pressure and an urge to push, yet still need to wait for the doctor to check that the baby is properly positioned, the breathing that relieves the pressure is taking several breaths rapidly through your teeth, as if you're making a hissing sound and then very slowly and deeply exhaling. The long exhalation helps to relax and lift off the pressure.
The purpose of the fourth kind of breathing in delivery is to help you speed up the delivery and to prevent the push and pull of the baby. This last kind of breathing takes a little bit of practice. You are to slowly take in the breath, hold it for one minute, while focusing all your strength on pushing with your stomach muscles. Then you need to maintain this push and in order to do so, you exhale very slowly, immediately taking another deep breath and holding it for another minute. You need to be able to maintain the push for 3-5 minutes, all along taking in the breath and holding it for one minute. You are likely to deliver the baby in only three minutes.
Removing Emotional Blocks
Deep intense breathing brings you in touch with deep seated emotions, the fears, pains and anger, and releases them. A very effective breathing technique that releases deep seated emotions and released energy blocks that prevent the free flow of energy is conscious-connected breathing. In this type of breathing there is no pause between the inhalation and exhalation, just one continuous flow.
You naturally breath in this way after ,what represents for you, an intense physical exertion - e.g. running a long distance. This is just about the only kind of breathing in which you may breathe (inhale and exhale) through your mouth.
Even if you breathe only for several minutes in this way - e.g. 20 conscious connected breaths, you'll release some emotional and energetic blocks. To experience the whole process, which may last even 45 minutes, it is best to contact a "certified rebirther" in your area. A "rebirther" is simply a guide - a person who has undergone this process and is experienced in guiding you through it.
The above process was initiated by Leonard Orr. The name "rebirthing" stuck because many people who went through the process would re-live their "birth" experience. The similar process, initiated by Stan Grof is "hologropic breathwork".
As you keep on breathing in the above manner, your body will feel energized and you will feel tingles all over your body. As the energy pushes through the energetic blocks in your body, initially you may feel a slight discomfort and attempt to resist the process. Resisting the process actually intensifies discomfort, so the only way through is to keep on breathing. As you surrender to the breathing process, at some point you'll even feel that it's not you who are breathing, but that the breath is breathing you, purifying every cell and atom of your body. As energetic and emotional obstacles dissolve, your breathing will gradually return to normal and you'll feel super-energized.
Accessing Creativity
There are several techniques for accessing creativity through breathing. One of them involves switching the nostril through which you are breathing. Throughout the day you'll notice that the nostril through which you are breathing changes. For a while you breathe through the right nostril, then the nostril changes, and you breathe through the left nostril. After a while, nostrils change again. As the left side of the body controls the right-brain thinking (creative), and the right side of the body controls the left-brain thinking (logical), to stimulate creativity and right-brain thinking, you simply close down your right nostril (with your thumb) and breathe through the left nostril, thus stimulating the right-brain activity.
Accelerating the Creation Process
Like God breathed life into his creation, magicians and healers breathe raised energy into the desired outcome. Focused energy, like a laser beam, always hits the target and brings about the manifestation, yet to create a change, to shapeshift your reality, you need to generate energy. The more energy you have, the more power you have. Individual with more energy easily re-arranges the lower-energy patterns. Or, if you will, in the conflict between the two, the one with more energy (higher vibration, more power) always wins over the one with lower energy (lower vibration, less power). More about this is mentioned elsewhere - throughout this website and through different reports and lessons that come with the self-hypnosis programs. Once the energy is raised (generated) it is directed, through breath and visualization, toward the manifestation of desired goal.
Kundalini Awakening Meditation
Kundalini breathing is the yogic process of consciously creating and sustaining a definite ascending and descending flow of cosmic energy through the cerebro-spinal channel.
While you are breathing in, imagine that together with your breath, you are breathing in the energy (life-force, ki. chi, prana) and imagine that this energy (you can imagine it as a ball of energy) is flowing down your spine. When it gets to the bottom of your spine, to the sacral energy center (chakra), imagine it striking the nerve center and awakening Kundalini.
While you are breathing out imagine the energy and awakening Kundalini, rising up all the way from your sacral chakra to the top of your head.
After a while you may notice a sensation of heat rising up from the bottom of your spine. You may also become aware of increased energy manifesting as a tingling sensation, as if an electric current was running through your body.
Alternative Kundalini Awakening Meditation:
When you practise the following, concentrate on the sacral energy center (Muladhara chakra) at the base of the spinal column, which is triangular in form and which is the seat of the Kundalini Shakti. Close the right nostril with your fight thumb. Inhale through the left nostril till you count to 3 slowly. Imagine that you are drawing the energy together with air you are inhaling.
Then close the left nostril with your little and ring fingers of the right hand. Then retain the breath for the count of 12. Send the current down the spinal column straight into the triangular lotus, the Muladhara chakra. Imagine that the nerve-current is striking against the lotus and awakening the Kundalini.
Then slowly exhale through the right nostril counting to 6. Repeat the process from the right nostril as stated above, using the same units, and having the same imagination and feeling.
This breathing technique will awaken the Kundalini quickly. Do it 3 times in the morning and 3 times in the evening. Increase the number and time gradually and cautiously according to your strength and capacity.
In this breathing technique, concentration on the sacral energy center is the important thing. Kundalini will be awakened quickly if the degree of concentration is intense and if the breathing technique is practised regularly.
As you inhale, feel that the Kundalini lying dormant in the sacral chakra is awakened and is going up from chakra to chakra. The more vivid the visualization of chakra after chakra, the more rapid will be your progress. Imagine that your whole being is pervaded by light, love, wisdom and power.
Slowly exhale now. And, as you exhale feel that the Kundalini Shakti is gradually descending from the top of your head (Sahasrara chakra), and from chakra to chakra, to the end of your spine (Muladhara chakra).
Now repeat the process.
Complete Yoga Breath
Sitting up straight or standing, or lying flat when possible, begin by expanding the abdomen and breathing into the lower lungs. Continue filling the middle lungs, expanding your lower ribs, then the middle ribs, then lifting the upper ribs, expand the upper chest. Finally, to get that air into the lungs highest areas, contract the abdomen just a bit. Your shoulders will lift a bit.
Hold your breath for just five seconds, no more. Finally, exhale through your nose, slowly, again contracting your stomach muscles.
Now, relax completely. Breathe normally for a breath or two, and repeat the complete breath. You can start with a few breaths, and gradually increase the number of breaths - as long as it feels comfortable.
Alternate Nostril Breathing
Sit up straight. Close the right nostril with the right thumb. Draw in the air very, very slowly through the left nostril. Then close the left nostril also with little and ring fingers of the right hand. Retain the air as long as you can comfortably do. Then exhale very, very slowly through the nostril after removing the thumb.
Then draw air through the right nostril. Retain the air as before and exhale it very, very slowly through the left nostril.
Repeat the above process 20 times in the morning and 20 times in the evening. Gradually increase the number. While breathing the above manner, imagine that with every exhalation, all tensions and negative attitudes (emotions) are leaving you and with every exhalation imagine that love, joy and peace are entering into being together with the air you are inhaling.
This kind of breathing cleanses the mind and the body, improves focus and concentration, and accelerates healing.
The above breathing techniques have barely scratched the surface of what you can do and experience by consciously controlling your breathing. There are many, many more techniques, each suitable for a different goal, each making an accomplishment of the desired goal easier.
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Madeline's Birth Story by Nanette
My labor started on a Friday night in May while most people were getting ready for Memorial Day weekend. I was already a week late and had been drinking lots of blue-cohash tea, so I was not mistaken in thinking that tonight was the night. I was starting to go to sleep pretty early all week so as I would be prepared for "oh my god, this-is-it" night. So when 4:00 pm came along and I started to feel what can best be described as "menstrual cramps" I mentally started to prepare myself. By about 7:00 pm, dinner time, the contractions were about 20 minutes apart and lasting about 15 seconds. After eating a high-carb dinner, I was sure that this was "it", so I called my midwife and gave her the details. She told me to take a warm bath, relax and keep her updated. Over the next several hours things progressed nicely. By about 10:00 pm the contractions were about 5 minutes apart and lasting about 1 minute each. Since I was only a town or two away from the birthing center, I wasn’t too worried about getting there. The midwife and I agreed to meet there at about 11:00 pm.
Now I had gone to an 8 week very intense birthing class focusing on the "Bradley Method" and had prepared myself for a completely natural birth and although this was my first child I was completely confident that I would "“rise to the occasion" and look good doing it. So freshly showered, dressed and face on, I arrived at the center. As a matter fact, when I did arrive, the attendant asked if I was the Midwife. I was like, "Are you nuts?! I’m the one in labor!" So after a brief introduction the staff on that night, I was examined by my Midwife, Samantha, and to my surprise was told I was only 4 cm.! I almost passed out. To compound things, she told me to relax, because it looks like it’s going to be a long night. I continued my labor at the center, after changing into a gown and resting against a bed. I had prepared a "heat sock"* and that really helped a lot (* I filled a long sock with uncooked rice and dropped a few drops of lavender oil in to give it a nice scent, tied off the one end and heated it in a microwave just until comfortably hot). My back was feeling a lot of pressure but when my labor partner massaged that up and down my back. It was wonderful while it lasted. Soon I felt as though I was not able to get comfortable so, off to the hot tub. AAHHH now this felt good. "This is going to be a breeze", I said to myself. I stayed there for about an hour and calmly dealt with the contractions, sipping juice in between. All of a sudden I felt a POP! I told my doula and she and the midwife confirmed that my water had broke. I thought "How convenient! No mess. This is going to be a breeze." That was the last time I said that!
I now know the meaning of the term "coming on like gangbusters!" I went from calm to a mess in about 10 minutes. First I threw up. Then I could not handle the contractions in the tub. I could feel myself starting to panic. "Oh my God, what have I done?" Everyone reassured me that I was doing great and I told myself, "I bet they say that to all the girls." I was in a lot of pain. It seems that the hot tub progressed by dilatation quickly. I went from 4 centimeters to 8 in about 45 minutes. Hence, the vomiting. Next it was off to the shower stall. Now this worked for a little while, about an hour. I used one of the techniques learned at class, to hang on your partner. I let the shower beat down on my back while hanging all my weight on my partner during the contractions. Needless to say we all got wet. It was then that I really started to “lose it”. I started telling my mother and aunt that "I couldn’t do this!" and "I needed help!" I could see the sympathy in my mother’s eyes, she going through this 3 times already and she reassured me that I was dong fine and that I COULD do this! Soon I found myself telling everyone that I had to push! It’s true what they say about knowing when to push. Up until that moment, I had no urges to push. But by God, I DID now! After trying a few unsuccessful positions I climbed onto the king-sized bed and with my labor partner supporting me from behind I proceeded to begin the 2 ½ hour pushing.
Now let me just say that everyone in that room was so vital. When I told people who was going to be with me during the labor I received mixed emotions and opinions. Some thought it was wonderful while others, including my husband (unfortunately stationed overseas and unable to attend, although called about 20 times during the labor), thought it sounded more like a cocktail party. However, in hindsight, I don’t know what I would have done if they weren’t there. My mother was there for moral support, my aunt stood in as a wonderful Bradley/labor partner and the doula and midwife were like the “professionals”. So there I was, a room full of women all pulling together to help me bring my baby into this world. And that’s exactly what happened. After about 2 hours of intense pushing and lot of primal sounds that I didn’t even know I was capable of, out she came.
She was so clean and unmarked that I thought she had been bathed. They gave her to me immediately and as I held her on my belly I pushed out the placenta. I continued to gaze in complete awe at her even as they stitched up my 2nd degree tear (no episiotomy). She was momentarily taken away for a quick inspection and when she returned I was amazed to find out that I had given birth to a 9 pound 2 ounces baby. El-Natural! And I lived to tell about it. I nursed her right away and have been since. She has grown so quickly that I feel as though I just gave birth to her last month even though she’s already 8 months.
So in conclusion, let me say that to all those out there who would like to have a natural birth and are questioning their ability, YOU CAN DO IT! Everyone should do what is best for them and the baby, but don’t let anyone scare you with horrible birth stories. Childbirth should be felt and experienced. As hard as it is sometimes, don’t let people take this away from you with promises of easing your pain and handing all control over to them. Every thing has its pros and cons, even childbirth. Become well versed on the subject and weight all the options. I read "The Birth Book" by William & Martha Sears and have continued on to "The Baby Book" by the same authors. Since then Mommy and Daddy are doing fine and continuing their goal of caring for baby Madeline.
Good Luck
Nanette
Editors Note:
The books that Nanette mentions in her story can be purchased through the Labor of Love at Amazon.com. Just follow the links for more information.
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From Raven
When asked to write an article about my mother, one particular aspect of her motherhood comes to mind, her forever giving nature. You see, my mother is not my birth mother. She is my grandmother, my father’s mother. When my young parents decided not to parent me, my grandparents took over. Though their children were grown, they took me in as a baby and raised me to be the strong, independent woman that I am today. There were times when raising me was hard and they both should have been enjoying being grandparents instead of full time parents.
The hardest time for my mother came when my grandfather passed away after a short battle with cancer in 1991. She was currently the only breadwinner of the family working for the State of Maryland as a toll collector for $9 an hour. Medical bills piled up, I was only 12 years old and had just lost what was essentially the only father I’d had. Mom had to pick up the pieces of a broken 12 year old girl, plan a funeral, and keep us both financially afloat on her salary alone. It wasn’t until I became an adult and had a job and bills of my own that I realized what a task she had before her.
Through all of the trials and tribulations, Mom managed to keep us well financially and taught me to be responsible for my own money so that we could make it on our own. I baby sat for friends until I was old enough to get a work permit. I got a job bussing tables in a local restaurant as soon as I turned fourteen. This way I could at least pay for my own clothes and other things that we weren’t able to afford since we now were a one income family. That experience instilled a strong work ethic in me. I knew that in order to take care of myself and my loved ones, I had to keep on working through even when I wanted to have fun and be a teenager.
I’m now 25 years old, I’m an independent, self- sufficient woman and I have the strength and determination of one woman to thank. That is my mother. I tell people so many times that you don’t have to be a father to be a daddy. The same is true for this wonderful lady. She didn’t have to bear me to have honor of being called “Mom”. She just had to love me and raise me to be the great woman I am today.
Happy Mother’s Day Virginia Grove!!!
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The truest expression of a people is in its dances and its music. Bodies never lie.- Agnes De Mille -
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